Saturday, February 8, 2014

What Is Life Coaching?

Life Coaching is a way of staying on track with your goals.
A lot of people ask me, "What is Life Coaching exactly?"

Well, Life Coaching is an unbiased way to get your life together and be focused on your goals, while at the same time overcoming your weaknesses.

Do you need a Life Coach?  Well, the simple answer that is no.  I strongly encourage building strong relationships with friends and family so that you will have all the support you need 24/7.

The problem sometimes is that some of our weaknesses that are holding us back could be our relationships.  That's one of the many reasons why a professional life coach could help.

I've heard people say things that they wouldn't even admit in confession.  The reason for this is that they know that I need them to be as completely honest as they can with me because I will never judge them.  We've all had our heartache and our pain and sometimes that resentment or guilt can build up.

A Life Coach is one way to get the support you need to deal with situations without it breaching your relationships in your life.  You can disclose anything you are feeling and a life coach can help you process how to improve on things (keep in mind that a life coach still has an ethical responsibility to uphold the law as well).

So not only does a Life Coach help you identify areas of improvement in your life, establish a working life improvement plan and then keeps you motivated to stick to that plan, a life coach becomes a close personal friend that will stand beside you through just about anything.

I have a life coach.  She's my wife and she knows me completely, inside and out.  I'm lucky and blessed, but I wasn't always.  I've been through heartache, betrayal and loss.  I've been inspired to reach for the stars only to be smacked to the ground.  With my life coach by my side, I'm not only reaching for the stars, I'm stealing them from the sky!

That is just a small taste of what the right life coach can do.

Friday, February 7, 2014

Life Empowerment Tip: Prepare for Daylight Savings Time

On March 9, 2014, the US will be returning to Daylight Savings Time.

If you are not ready for it, you may experience what many people are going to feel, a sense of being late for everything as one hour of your life has been stripped away from you.

So if you are keeping a daily schedule as I suggest, then the next 4 weeks are critical to keeping things on track.  Starting this week, start adjusting your wake up time and your bed time schedules by 15 minutes.
So if you get up at 6am and go to bed at 10pm, what you need to do this week is get up at 5:45am and go to bed at 9:45pm.  If you enjoy a specific show on TV or something, too bad, just DVR the thing and watch it tomorrow.

If you adjust your wake up time and your bed time by 15 minutes each week, you will be ready for the time change without loss of energy.  Sleeping patterns are one of the most challenging things we can have adjusting.

Start now or you will be behind like everyone else come March 9th!

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Why Am I Always So Tired?

Stress and anxiety will exhaust you mentally.
Sleeping, eating right and exercise are excellent ways to recharge your batteries, and yet many people still feel like they are always running on empty.

Relationship issues, money problems, heartache and loss are all pressing matters that throw us into emotional overdrive, which causes our thoughts to race out of control.  Couple this with anxiety and you have a recipe to run yourself down.

Although it is true that some people seem like vampires that will literally suck the energy right out of you, if you have the right mental balance and organization in your life, you can protect yourself from unwanted consumption of your time and energy.  You need to have a plan.

Simply put, create a basic daily schedule.  Start with the time you are going to wake up and end it with when you plan to go to bed.  Include time to meditate (10 minutes minimum), preparation to get to work, then work commute time.  Set aside chore time, family time, eating times and finally some reflection time.

With your reflection time, you can set aside 15 minutes to reflect on your day or your past and journal about some of your regrets and achievements.  After you have done this, you should also spend the same amount of time planning your goals.

When you have a plan and stick to it, this will help you to get control over all of the stressful things in your life.  And if you are not dwelling on the past or the future (because time for that has already been pre-planned), you can literally manifest time to get the things you need done out of the way by being more productive through your increased focus and awareness.

Just like if you sit and watch a clock, every little task seems to be completed so much faster if you are just trying to make it till your time mark.  You do something thinking it will take you 10 minutes so you can do the next step in your day only to discover that you knocked out the task in 3 minutes and you have 7 more to spare!

This productivity will build your confidence and self control.  You will no longer be running your energy reserves down needlessly.  You will have more energy, more time and more happiness in your life.  You will achieve your goals and create your future as you see fit.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

How can I Find Ways To Empower My Children?

Self Empowerment comes naturally to children.
Probably one of the biggest things I think about is how do I discuss the things that I discover for myself with my four children and how I can empower them.

One of the things I realized is that they are already equipped and put into action the very things that I love to talk about!

What I would say is the absolutely most important thing we can do as parents is to turn of the tv, the computer, the video game and have a conversation with them.  Children need that real connection to the fact that although they are kids, their ideas, their insights have merit.

Children dream big and they take action with no hesitation.  Yesterday, my 11 year old decided that she was going to write a book as well.  There was no "strategic plan", no outline, no preparation.  She simply grabbed the tablet she uses for home school and started writing.  What she wrote was really impressive to me, including dialogue of her book characters.

So get your children to talking and teach them to trust their own ideas.  Also teach them that it is OK TO ASK WHY!  I know that hearing "why" every time you ask them to clean their room can be daunting, but what you have to do is answer the same way as many times as you can so that they can see your "opinion" hasn't changed about it.

And that leads me into the next part about conversation with them:  opinions.  Always reinforce your ideologies about life with them as your opinions and challenge them to question it.  They also need to know that facts are different, however every new discovery in science comes from challenging facts as we understand them today.

If you arm your children with these type of self reflective communication skills, they will evolve their own ideologies with your guidance.  This will bolster self confidence and esteem.  It will also help them to learn respect for the ideas and opinions of others. Reinforce the idea that "their opinions" are not worth less than someone else's "opinions", however everyone has a right to have their own.

Once you have the communication life lessons with them, teach them about charity and kindness to those less fortunate.  Let them know that some people behave negatively because they feel trapped by their emotions, their situation or their isolation.

Last, but not least, really let them work with their imaginations.  Reading is an excellent way for children to actively use their imagination, which builds visualization skills.  Visualization is the key to manifestation, so once you have them reading or creating art, literature, etc., start them on the path to goal setting and motivate them to achieve them.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Warning: Object May Be Closer Than They Appear

We don't always recognize our sphere of influence.
You are larger than life and you have the capacity to extend your reach beyond "the accepted reach of influence" of your environment to create change.

I'm not speaking metaphorically or through influence of physical interaction or communication.  I'm referring to you, the spiritual being inhabiting a body and how you are more than the sum of your parts.

Let's start by the accepted source of self awareness within the human brain.  Self awareness is referred to as the meta-consciousness which belongs to a network in the outer layer (cortical) of the brain that includes the right dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, the frontopolar regions and the precuneus.  The total percentage of these brain centers account for approximately 15% of your brain mass.

So why is it that when you are thinking inside your head, you hear your inner voice filling up the entire area of your head?  Why doesn't the voice feel more isolated to that 15%?  It's about perception.  Just as sound waves travel through the air creating volume that can be loud or far away based on distance, our brains have an internal perception of it's own self awareness, effectively making it "larger than life" within the consciences operating brain centers.

Let's look at another example, one many of us are familiar with.  The idea of personal space, that zone between you and the world you choose to interact with.  It's that zone that we open up to those that we want to emotionally share with and the area that says "stay away" when someone we don't want gets too close.  It seems like it is just like any other space whether it is the immediate 3 foot around us or 3 foot around a tree in the backyard, so why does it feel like it belong to us?  I personally believe that it comes from two different things.  One, an instinctive mechanism of our primal minds to be alert of danger in our environment, but secondly and more importantly, I believe that what we identify as "I" or "Self" has claimed this space around us, thereby extending our "spirit" to occupy not just the place within the 15% of our brain, or our head, or even our body, but also occupying by extension of our bodies, the space around our bodies as well!

Let's take this yet another step further!  Think of your home and how you behave and interact it.  It is different than when you are in public or at work.  It is as if, by extension, it becomes a part of you, your space.  Now this may be a territory based instinct, so why is it that if you sleep over at someone else's place, you may feel a sense of invading another's "territory" when you clearly know you are welcomed?  It's not your place, but that of someone else who has allowed you to be there, and yet you don't feel the same connection to it as you do your space!

So if you are a spiritual being living within a body, why do you feel to have your spiritual self confined within the limitations of your body.  The idea is absolutely ludicrous when you think of the soul with absolutely no measurable sense of dimension or space.  That's a self imposed limit and yet we allow ourselves to extend our spiritual influence beyond our physical bodies and mass all the time!

There's this technique I call "spiritual extension" that based on your perceptions, back with intent allows you to extend at will the extension of your awareness beyond commonly accepted means.  I believe that when you have an artist performing in front of a large arena filled with people, they instinctively extend this spiritual energy as they know that their music is reaching everyone in the area of the sound waves traveling.  It allows them to become aware of not just the 3 feet around the microphone, or the stage, or even the first few rows, but the entire arena.  It allows them to get "in tune" with their crowd, all of them, not just the few people up front.  That's a lot of information to process from a logical point of view and yet it is done with ease.

Through the idea of anchoring, spiritual extension becomes something you can with intent extend your area of influence.  The next time you go outside or a large building such as a grocery store, give it a try.  Stop where you are so you can identify areas that are a distance from you.  Find a point to focus on like a corner near the ceiling or a tree at the edge of the park and visualize a spiritual webbing (think of yourself like Spiderman shooting a web "extension" of you if you need help with the visualization.)  Next find a second anchor point and do the same.  You make up the 3rd point.  Now visualize "you" that voice in your head, expanding rapidly to fill the space between those two anchors and you.

Try it.  Be sure to use intent to "project" yourself.  See what happens!